continuation... How to find out the reason Try to find out the real reason for the fear of the coach. Do not forcefully "pull" from the baby the information you need - so you can only hurt. It is better to do the following steps: 1. The child is afraid of the trainer Just talk with the child, without beliefs, arguments and other things. Ask him about how the training went, what they did, what he managed and didn't manage to do; what kind of children are there with whom your child became friends, are there any children who are "harmful" and so on. Speak calmly, with kindness, your inner mood should be exceptionally benevolent and disposable. It is important not only to hide your alarm, but do not really feel it. Calm down and do not be nervous: at the moment there is no problem, there is only the appearance of a problem that could be created by the child himself or a situation that does not have a problematic background. It is necessary to remember this! 2. Talk with the trainer. This conversation should also be benevolent. Do not wind yourself before the conversation, do not blame the coach beforehand in anything. Ask how things are in your child's training, everything works out. Ask if everything is in order, whether there are conflicts between your child and other children and so on. Most often these two conversations allow to answer all questions: to find out why the child is afraid of the trainer and take the appropriate steps (about them below). If you could not find the problem, go to the third step: 3. Joint consultation: you, the child, the expert. As practice shows, the true problem of the coach's fear of consulting with a specialist is revealed in the first 15 minutes of a one-hour consultation. After that, during the remaining minutes there is a discussion and there is the best solution to the problem, and the child, at first crying, leaves happy from the specialist - the solution to his torment is found and will be performed. So, the most important thing: to find the true cause of fear. This is what will really solve the problem. Solutions to the problem Situation from life: the child says that the trainer is bad and does not want to go to trainings. Much later (several years later) it turned out that one day the coach laughed at the child's baggy sports suit. The mockery was fleeting and inconspicuous, but it eventually led to several shifts in the gyms, and then to the conclusion of the classes: the child was embarrassed by his costume and did not admit to it to the parents (for this too many reasons can be - for example, the child knows that there is no money for another suit, that his parents will not understand, and so on). It is important to remember that not all children's trainers know how to communicate with children, and children take exceptionally sincerely much of what important adults say (which is the coach in class). Remember: the fear of the coach can have a huge number of reasons. It is necessary to find the true one.